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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

Russell Friedman, Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute

Russell Friedman

Executive Director
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve


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Has the Reality of My Loss Set in Yet? (Published 8-30-11)

Q:

Hi. I just lost my mother a week ago and have returned home from taking care of her apartment, car, possessions and her life. My mom was only 48 years old and I am 29. I am worried that the reality of my loss has not quite set in yet. My sleep pattern and appetite have been affected tremendously. I feel physical pain plus odd muscle twinges I did not have before. I am not abusing alcohol or drugs. I was always the strong one in the family and the one who took care of everything and everyone.

My question is if I feel numb am I still grieving? I was only angry for a few days following her death and now I am just sad. More than sad. I understand that this is a traumatic experience but I am worried that the pain I feel will hit me all of once and render me incapable of living the life of a fully functioning adult. Do you think that is reasonable worry? Thank you for the help.


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The Grief Recovery Institute ® offers Certification Training programs for those who wish to help grievers.

    March 2017
    Omaha, NE - March 3-6, 2017
    Baton Rouge, LA - March 10-13, 2017
    Handforth, Manchester, England - Mar 17-20
    Memphis, TN - March 17-20, 2017
    Calgary, AB, Canada - March 24-27, 2017
    Los Angeles, CA - March 24-27, 2017
    April 2017
    Indianapolis, IN - April 7-10, 2017
    Princeton, NJ - April 7-10, 2017
    Denver, CO - April 21-24, 2017
    Vancouver, BC, Canada - Apr 28-May 1,'17
    San Francisco, CA - Apr 28-May 1,'17

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