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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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Russell Friedman, Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute

Russell Friedman

Executive Director
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve


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Has the Reality of My Loss Set in Yet? (Published 8-30-11)

Q:

Hi. I just lost my mother a week ago and have returned home from taking care of her apartment, car, possessions and her life. My mom was only 48 years old and I am 29. I am worried that the reality of my loss has not quite set in yet. My sleep pattern and appetite have been affected tremendously. I feel physical pain plus odd muscle twinges I did not have before. I am not abusing alcohol or drugs. I was always the strong one in the family and the one who took care of everything and everyone.

My question is if I feel numb am I still grieving? I was only angry for a few days following her death and now I am just sad. More than sad. I understand that this is a traumatic experience but I am worried that the pain I feel will hit me all of once and render me incapable of living the life of a fully functioning adult. Do you think that is reasonable worry? Thank you for the help.


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The Grief Recovery Institute ® offers Certification Training programs for those who wish to help grievers.

    August  2015
    New York, NY - Aug 7-10, 2015
    Perth, WA, Australia - Aug 13-16, 2015
    Bend, OR - Aug 14-17, 2015
    Pittsburgh, PA - Aug 21-24, 2015
    Monterrey, N.L, Mexico - Aug 28-31, 2015

    September 2015
    Melbourne, VIC, Australia - Sept 3-6, 2015
    Des Moines, IA - Sept 11-14, 2015
    Gatwick, England - Sept 18-21, 2015
    Detroit, MI - Sept 18-21, 2015
    Houston, TX - Sept 18-21, 2015
    Los Angeles, CA - Sept 25-28, 2015
    Thunder Bay, ON, Canada - Sept 25-28, 2015
    Mexico City, D.F., Mexico - Sept 25-28, 2015
    Atlanta, GA - Sept 25-28, 2015

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