John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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Russell Friedman, Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute

Russell Friedman

Executive Director
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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“…And I Forgive You So I Can Be Free”—a phrase can save your emotional life. (Published 5-15-2012)


My husband of 20 years died unexpectedly 10 weeks ago today. He was only 45, the love of my life and my best friend. He was due to be released from the hospital and something happened. There was an inaccurate reading of his tests and his fatal condition was overlooked and he died the next day. It's difficult enough just losing him. Me and our son are having a terrible time coping with the loss and the anger from this "mistake" that led to his death. What do we do to get past the anger? We grieve and then we're hurt and angry... it's an emotional roller coaster. Why do I still feel in the back of my mind that I can have someone "fix it"? To call it an error or mistake is offensive to me. You can fix errors and mistakes usually. I'm an adult and can't filter all these emotions, so I'm extremely worried about my 14 year old son.

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The Grief Recovery Institute ® offers Certification Training programs for those who wish to help grievers.

  • May 2014
    Princeton, NJ - May 2-5, 2014
    Denver, CO - May 2-5, 2014
    Los Angeles, CA - May 16-19, 2014
    New Orleans, LA - May 30-June 2, 2014

    June 2014
    Indianapolis, IN - June 6-9, 2014
    Palm Springs, CA - June 13-16, 2014
    San Francisco, CA - June 20-23, 2014
    Memphis, TN - June 20-13, 2014
    Hartford, CT - June 27-30, 2014

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