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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve


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Having emotions—including tears—when you look at his picture is not “breaking down.” It is being human and sad and missing someone you love. (Published 11/27/2012)

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In 2010, I lost my 2 year old grandson to an accidental gunshot. He and I were very very close. We had a strong bond.
To this day, it still feels as if it just happened. I wake up in the middle of the night and it will be my first thought. Usually at night right before bedtime, I sometimes feel 'waves' of despair or depression. I can look at his picture and break down. We buried him along side my mother and father. I have not been to the cemetery yet, even after all this time.. Sometimes I feel very guilty about that, but my fear is that I will hurt much much worse if I go.

There have been people who tell me he is in a better place, others who say I will never get 'over' it, that in time it will just get easier. For me, it doesn't seem to be going in that direction.

Will I ever feel happiness again?


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