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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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Russell Friedman, Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute

Russell Friedman

Executive Director
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve


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You don’t have the power to make an alcoholic stop drinking, and all the love in the word can’t repair someone else’s mental health. (Published 1/22/2013)

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I just found out my ex husband died. I've had a feeling for a long time he had passed. I decided to look and was still very much shocked to find his name in the obituaries. He was 31. I stayed with him for a long time since I knew if I left him he would die. He was an alcoholic and I believe bi-polar. I feel guilty about his passing, like I could have done more. I'm having a lot of regrets about the way I treated him after our divorce. We got divorced the first time he tried to choke me. He didn't want me to move on and kept harassing me. But at this moment all I can remember are the good times. I have so many feelings going thru me. Please help


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  • December 2014
    Seattle, WA - Dec 5-8, 2014
    Dallas, TX - Dec 5-8, 2014
    Toronto, ON, Canada - Dec 5-8, 2014
    Jacksonville, FL - Dec 5-8, 2014
    Princeton, NJ - Dec 5-8, 2014
  • January 2015
    Phoenix, AZ - Jan 16-19, 2015
    Columbus, OH - Jan 16-19, 2015
    Mexico City, D.F., Mexico - Jan 23-25, 2015
    Monterrey, N.L., Mexico - Jan 23-26, 2015
    Atlanta, GA - Jan 23-26, 2015
    Bend, OR - Jan 23-26, 2015
    Los Angeles, CA - Jan 30-Feb 2, 2015

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