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“I was working at the Family Fitness Centre in Pico Blv back in the late 80's whem Donnie was hired to join our team, From the beginning he was taken...Read More »
1 of 23 | Posted by: Tony Contreras - Australia

“I met Donnie when I walked into 24 Hour Fitness on Pico Blvd. in Century City in 1999. I was looking for a job and I went to speak to the manager....Read More »
2 of 23 | Posted by: Rick Gonzalez - Los Angeles, CA

“I worked with Donnie, Dennis, Johnny, Mark, little john, Brett Fox and all the gang. I'm so sorry to hear about Donnie. He was a great friend of...Read More »
3 of 23 | Posted by: Mike Blakey - CA - Friend

“Well Donnie I just heard the sad news but knowing you I am betting you are on a wild ride through the heavens. You worked LA when I was working...Read More »
4 of 23 | Posted by: Dave Adams - OR - friend

“Donnie...Taught me so much to living life. He is one of those people to me that you reflect on alot. I think of Donnie alot and always have since he...Read More »
5 of 23 | Posted by: Whitney Blum - Clarence, NY

“Dear Bender Family, We were so sorry to hear about Donnie. He was a great kid. We have so many wonderful memories of him. Our thoughts and prayers go...Read More »
6 of 23 | Posted by: The Estes Family - apple valley, CA

“My family and I are praying for you and your family to somehow find peace in all this. We're not supposed to bury our kids, and we don't suppose to...Read More »
7 of 23 | Posted by: Steve Lohmeyer Family - CA

“Marlene,Dennis,Kelly,Denny,Dionne, So sorry for your loss.Donnie had the kind of spirit and energy that I will never forget. I have not...Read More »
8 of 23 | Posted by: Rick Jordan - Apple Valley, CA

“Dennis, We are so sorry to hear about the loss of your son Donnie. Our prayers are with you. Snake Sibaila's parents ”
9 of 23 | Posted by: Joe and Ginger Felicione - CA

“Dear Bender family, I am sincerely sadden to hear of the loss of Donnie. I grew up with Donnie and can still picture him as a ten year old boy on the...Read More »
10 of 23 | Posted by: Leo Miller - CA - friend

“Dionne and Denny and Kelly, I am so very sorry about Donnies passing. Please give your mom ( marlene) a big hug from me. Your family will be in my...Read More »
11 of 23 | Posted by: Debi Bowers - Keller, TX

“My deepest condolences to the Bender Family. My God keep you in the palm of his hand during these times. Sincerely, Bridget Huarte ”
12 of 23 | Posted by: Bridget Huarte

“Donnie, may Heaven welcome you like you did for us "back in the day" at Lake Delores, and you let us in for free. ”
13 of 23 | Posted by: vince hanson - Apple Valley, CA

“Donnie had a great big heart. He is going to be missed by so many people who loved him. May the prayers that family and friends make shine up on his...Read More »
14 of 23 | Posted by: Christina Markris - New York, NY

“Donnie - thank you for the great memories. Always so welcoming you embraced everyone you met. The fond memories of your laughter and friendship are...Read More »
15 of 23 | Posted by: RaymondSweeney - Valencia, CA

“To the Bender Family I am very sorry for your loss of Donnie. I know that he is in a better place & we will all join him again soon. May he rest...Read More »
16 of 23 | Posted by: Dianna Cammiso Chavez - CA

“Donnie was one of a kind. He was loyal and loved. Donnie and I had a crazy streak but Donnie was alot of fun. He was a great friend that you could...Read More »
17 of 23 | Posted by: Slade Lohman - Friend

“Dear Bender Family, My deepest condolences for your loss. You're in my prayers. Kelly Farrell-Manning ”
18 of 23 | Posted by: Kelly Farrell - Denver, CO

“Marlene, Kelly, Denny & Dione, My heart goes out to you at this time of sorrow. Donnie will be greatly missed! I have many fond memories from...Read More »
19 of 23 | Posted by: Suzanne Berg - Riverton, UT

“We are sincerely sadden to hear about the loss of Donnie. Although we have not seen him for some time , we remember when he was young crusing around...Read More »
20 of 23 | Posted by: Jack and Jennie Voller - CA

“Marlene, Kelly, Denny, Dione & families; Feel comfort from "old" friends too at this time of sorrow. We enjoyed a lot of good times together when...Read More »
21 of 23 | Posted by: Patty (Kurtz) Yancey - CA

“Dennis, I just wanted to say how sorry we are about the loss of your son, Donny. We have come to love you as part of our own family and our hearts...Read More »
22 of 23 | Posted by: Michele Baird - Apple Valley, CA

“To the Bender family, Our heartfelt condolences to you in this difficult time. Heaven has opened up its gates and we will all be together again...Read More »
23 of 23 | Posted by: Bobby Richard - Montgomery, TX

Donnie Kenneth Bender passed away after a brief illness on January 11, 2010 in Laguna Niguel. Donnie was a resident of the High Desert for many years currently residing in Laguna Niguel. Donnie graduated in 1982 from Apple Valley High School, where he was an outstanding football player for coaches Hook and Morgan. While there were certainly times when Donnie struggled, his love, compassion, and integrity touched hundred of lives. Always the first person to stand up for what was right. Donnie's presence in a room was unmistakable. No matter where you met Donnie, you had a good time and found him surrounded by beautiful women. During his time working in the fitness world, Donnie developed a reputation for his ability to connect with people from all walks of life. It was not by accident that he became one of the top salesmen for 24 Hour Fitness, helping open dozens of locations across the U.S. During his time working in the fitness realm, Donnie became a trainer for the UFC and managed the ultimate fighter Victor Belfort. Through his trials, Donnie emerged to make those around him stronger. When others struggled with their demons, Donnie was there to help them. His generosity, and the love he shared so freely and without expectations, is what will be missed most. Donnie is survived by his father, Dennis Bender; mother, Marlene Bender; brothers and sisters, Kelley Delgado, Denny Bender, Dionne Hill, Rhett Dornbach-Bender and Allison Dornbach-Bender; and his children, Brandon Bender, Riley Bender and Skye Bender. Bobby Kennedy's son, Maxwell Taylor Kennedy eulogized Donnie at a memorial service held in Santa Monica. A celebration of Donnie's life will be held on Saturday, February 6th, at 11:00 A.M. at the Roy Rogers Dale Evans Chapel at Sunset Hills, 24000 Waalew Road, Apple Valley, California. Go to Facebook and search for "Donnie Bender" to leave a memorial tribute. Sunset Hills Memorial Park and Mortuary is handling the arrangements. Updated service information and on line guestbook are available at

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